3 Ways To Attract The Right Person In Your Life

(This post is written by Simran Mangharam, co-founder of Floh. Floh is a platform to help urban and educated singles find a life partner. Learn more at www.floh.in)

It always appears to be hard to find the ‘Right Person‘ in our lives. Yet, I feel that these 3 simple things can actually make it happen!

Attract The Right Person In Your Life

1. Do things you enjoy. If you’re urban & educated single, you might have heard a well meaning friend say “It will happen when you least expect it.” What it really means is to involve yourself in activities that you really enjoy and do things that you love, so when you’re not looking for it, you might meet the right person. Nothing is more attractive than the vibe you generate when you are happy and carefree. A friend of mine fell in love with her husband when he was passionately explaining the technique of serious mountaineering. Although she is still not remotely interested in scaling any mountain heights, she says she was blown away with his immense positive energy.

2. Always be who you are – always. Trying to be something that you’re not, not only confuses you, it also confuses the people interacting with you. You want to be with someone who likes you for who you are. You do not want to be in a relationship where you have to constantly pretend. Sometimes, I think this is more to do with our society’s conditioning and the do’s and don’ts that are expected of us. The reality is that each and every one of us is unique and thank God for that! Like most of us, I was brought up to learn right from wrong and to be vocal when I feel that someone is at fault. This could range from showing vocal dissent to someone breaking a line to stopping someone from beating up someone defenseless on the street. I’ve had many a men who could not handle this “aggressive streak” in me, and then I found my husband who thinks that it is one of the strongest qualities that attracted him to me.

3. Respect yourself and know how you would like to be treated. This is perhaps the trickiest and most important point because learning to respect yourself has to come from within. And, once you know how you would like to be treated, don’t settle for anything less. Believe me, this definitely makes life easy for the other person as well since you are navigating them into your life. It takes the pressure off them, and they don’t have to struggle to figure out how to behave around you. Surprisingly, it takes very simple actions like, not being okay with someone showing up repeatedly late, constantly changing plans or talking incessantly on the phone while they are with you, to establish this. You have to let the other person know that this just does not work for you and if it still does not resonate with them, it’s time to move on and find someone with who it does!

The examples are true experiences. I’d love to hear what you think and whether these resonate with you.

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  • Sama

    Nice write up!! Totally agree!

  • Shoumi

    Well written Simran.I totally agree with what you say, but it is hard at times to maintain them as you get berserk with your loneliness. :)

  • barkha dattani

    really well written, v precise n exactly wat i needed nw to know.. n wat i rite nw need to do is enjoy my self n stop waiting fr someone to come.

  • Pulkesin K Tiiwary

    I quite agree. Do things you love and be passionate about it. I can positively attest that

  • V Ramamurthy

    I find your views valid and very well stated

  • Pradeep K.V. Kumar

    u are pretty true… respect oneself then the others would continue …

  • niyati

    Amazing article simran..I completely agree with your points…but how to deal with the way society has conditioned us.
    I really really love your this article coz I can relate myself to it but Like shoumi I would say that it does get lonely out there and it becomes next to impossible to be what you truly are.

  • lee

    good one!!!

  • Varsha T

    well said

  • Jyoti

    I cannot agree more … A friend of mine sent link to your blog and i have been reading a few now. Gosh its so soothing that someone is writing whats exactly on my mind and is going on around our society. Please tell me how do i get rid if the feeling that i hate the rulea and how our society has molded men like they are today. I dont hate that species but unfortunately majority if them are AHs.

  • rika shin

    i have diffrent idea. i dont think u dont have to attract guys. just be normal and dont lie to ur self and just truth. and naturally u will find a good guy in your life i think. im Rika im half india and half korean. my mom is from india and my dad is south korea. ever since they got married and had my twin brother and me . they had never fight they are always so romantic each other. they met while they are ina college when they were younger days./

  • rika shin

    but if you want to meet a wonderful guy i guess best way is Travel . Travel to any country meet lots of diffrent people and diffrent guys. and meet and talk with them. see which guy u wantt o be with rest of your life. of course if you get lucky you might get proposed by a guy while you are traveling.

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